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Another huge red flag to watch out for is when your partner just stops including you in future plans.
It usually starts with small things. You ask what they want to do this weekend and they say, "I think I might hit the gym and then just chill." Not, "We should go out" or "Let’s grab dinner together." Just them, solo. No mention of you.
You mention a trip you both were excited about and suddenly it’s, "Let’s just wait and see." Or you suggest booking tickets to a concert and they say, "Can we talk about that later?" But later never comes.
They used to say stuff like, "We should take a trip next month" or "Let’s do a little weekend away." Now when you bring up booking something together or even just organizing dinner with their family, they get vague. "I don’t know what I’m doing yet." Or, "Not sure if I’ll be free."
Free from what? Or from who?
They also stop saying "we." It just becomes all "I."
"I might go away for the long weekend." "I’ll probably just stay in." "I’m not sure what I want anymore."
Even day-to-day stuff changes. You say, "What should we cook tomorrow?" and they go, "I’ll probably just order something."
The bigger plans disappear too. No more dreaming about travel or future holidays or even cute stuff like getting a dog. Everything just fades.
And when you try to talk about it? They just hit you with vague lines that end the conversation. They'll say, "I don’t know where this is going," or "Maybe we’re just different," which are just polite ways of saying, "I'm checking out, but I don't have the guts to admit it."
Even worse is when they disguise their distance as empowerment. They'll become your biggest cheerleader for having "freedoms" and a life separate from them. They’ll say things like, "I really think it's important that you have your own freedoms. You should go out with your friends more!"
It's an impossible situation. If you agree to do your own thing, you’re just helping them pull away. But if you say you want to spend time together, they'll call you needy or controlling.
They take your normal desire for closeness and make it seem like a flaw.
Here's the bottom line: When someone stops planning a future with you, it’s almost always because they're starting to imagine a future without you. They may have already checked out emotionally, or maybe they're putting their energy into someone or something else.
Whatever the reason, if they constantly dodge, delay, or get weird every time you try to plan something, don't ignore that feeling in your gut.
That change in energy? Even if it’s not cheating, it means something.
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Transcript
Another huge red flag to watch out for is when your partner just stops including you in future plans.
It usually starts with small things. You ask what they want to do this weekend and they say, "I think I might hit the gym and then just chill." Not, "We should go out" or "Let’s grab dinner together." Just them, solo. No mention of you.
You mention a trip you both were excited about and suddenly it’s, "Let’s just wait and see." Or you suggest booking tickets to a concert and they say, "Can we talk about that later?" But later never comes.
They used to say stuff like, "We should take a trip next month" or "Let’s do a little weekend away." Now when you bring up booking something together or even just organizing dinner with their family, they get vague. "I don’t know what I’m doing yet." Or, "Not sure if I’ll be free."
Free from what? Or from who?
They also stop saying "we." It just becomes all "I."
"I might go away for the long weekend." "I’ll probably just stay in." "I’m not sure what I want anymore."
Even day-to-day stuff changes. You say, "What should we cook tomorrow?" and they go, "I’ll probably just order something."
The bigger plans disappear too. No more dreaming about travel or future holidays or even cute stuff like getting a dog. Everything just fades.
And when you try to talk about it? They just hit you with vague lines that end the conversation. They'll say, "I don’t know where this is going," or "Maybe we’re just different," which are just polite ways of saying, "I'm checking out, but I don't have the guts to admit it."
Even worse is when they disguise their distance as empowerment. They'll become your biggest cheerleader for having "freedoms" and a life separate from them. They’ll say things like, "I really think it's important that you have your own freedoms. You should go out with your friends more!"
It's an impossible situation. If you agree to do your own thing, you’re just helping them pull away. But if you say you want to spend time together, they'll call you needy or controlling.
They take your normal desire for closeness and make it seem like a flaw.
Here's the bottom line: When someone stops planning a future with you, it’s almost always because they're starting to imagine a future without you. They may have already checked out emotionally, or maybe they're putting their energy into someone or something else.
Whatever the reason, if they constantly dodge, delay, or get weird every time you try to plan something, don't ignore that feeling in your gut.
That change in energy? Even if it’s not cheating, it means something.
Read More
Transcript
Another huge red flag to watch out for is when your partner just stops including you in future plans.
It usually starts with small things. You ask what they want to do this weekend and they say, "I think I might hit the gym and then just chill." Not, "We should go out" or "Let’s grab dinner together." Just them, solo. No mention of you.
You mention a trip you both were excited about and suddenly it’s, "Let’s just wait and see." Or you suggest booking tickets to a concert and they say, "Can we talk about that later?" But later never comes.
They used to say stuff like, "We should take a trip next month" or "Let’s do a little weekend away." Now when you bring up booking something together or even just organizing dinner with their family, they get vague. "I don’t know what I’m doing yet." Or, "Not sure if I’ll be free."
Free from what? Or from who?
They also stop saying "we." It just becomes all "I."
"I might go away for the long weekend." "I’ll probably just stay in." "I’m not sure what I want anymore."
Even day-to-day stuff changes. You say, "What should we cook tomorrow?" and they go, "I’ll probably just order something."
The bigger plans disappear too. No more dreaming about travel or future holidays or even cute stuff like getting a dog. Everything just fades.
And when you try to talk about it? They just hit you with vague lines that end the conversation. They'll say, "I don’t know where this is going," or "Maybe we’re just different," which are just polite ways of saying, "I'm checking out, but I don't have the guts to admit it."
Even worse is when they disguise their distance as empowerment. They'll become your biggest cheerleader for having "freedoms" and a life separate from them. They’ll say things like, "I really think it's important that you have your own freedoms. You should go out with your friends more!"
It's an impossible situation. If you agree to do your own thing, you’re just helping them pull away. But if you say you want to spend time together, they'll call you needy or controlling.
They take your normal desire for closeness and make it seem like a flaw.
Here's the bottom line: When someone stops planning a future with you, it’s almost always because they're starting to imagine a future without you. They may have already checked out emotionally, or maybe they're putting their energy into someone or something else.
Whatever the reason, if they constantly dodge, delay, or get weird every time you try to plan something, don't ignore that feeling in your gut.
That change in energy? Even if it’s not cheating, it means something.