Pink Flag Audio
Module: 35
Too Much, Too Fast
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Alright, so in the last module, we talked about how a guy who’s cheating might pull away in the bedroom. And while that definitely happens a lot, what’s way more confusing is when he does the complete opposite. Out of the blue, he becomes more sexual, passionate, and attentive than he has been in months or even years.
So, what's behind this sudden 180? Well, it's almost always one of two powerful feelings: crushing guilt or an inflated ego.
First, let's talk about the guilt. Deep down, a man who's cheating knows he's doing something wrong, and that creates a nagging voice in his head. To make himself feel less like a total scumbag, he tries to balance his guilt by suddenly becoming amazing to you. In his mind, it's like, "Ok yeah, I screwed my co-worker last night, but I brought my girlfriend flowers and we had amazing sex today, so it all cancels out. We're good."
He's not necessarily doing it consciously. Instead, it's a guilt-driven impulse. If he can become the perfect boyfriend, showering you with attention, surprise dates, and more sex, that makes him feel less like a terrible person. One woman described this perfectly, saying, "When my boyfriend started his affair, he became so romantic and experimental overnight. I thought we were having this beautiful reconnection. But looking back, it felt desperate, like he was trying to prove something rather than just being with me."
The second, and often more powerful, reason their sex drive increases is all about ego. An affair can give a man a huge confidence boost. He's now getting validation from two different women, making him feel like an irresistible stud who can satisfy multiple women.
This feeling gets even more intense if the other woman is already in a relationship. Now, in his mind, he's not just getting laid on the side, he's winning some weird competition against a man he doesn’t even know. This other woman is choosing him over the guy she's actually committed to, risking her whole relationship just to be with him. She will tell him he's exciting, funnier, and better in bed than her husband, and it makes him feel like he's God's gift to women.
This ego trip floods his system with testosterone and supercharges his sex drive. As one man admitted, "After I started seeing my mistress, my sex life with my wife got way more frequent and intense." That high from being chosen by someone else lights a fire in him, and that fire often spreads to your bedroom.
So, how can you tell if this newfound passion is real or just a symptom of something else? The biggest red flag is the timing. When couples genuinely reconnect, it happens slowly as you both put in effort and work on things together. This fake passion, on the other hand, tends to appear suddenly, out of nowhere, with no real explanation.
Another sign is the inconsistency. One day he's all over you, making you feel like the most desirable person in the world, and the next he's distant and cold. This hot-and-cold behavior happens because his mind is split. When he's feeling good about the affair, that excited, sexual energy spills over onto you. But when he's stressed about it or missing the other woman, you might as well be invisible.
In the end, you have to trust your gut. If he's suddenly all over you but it feels weird or desperate, listen to that feeling. He might not be more passionate because he loves you more. It might be because some other woman is making him feel like hot shit, and you're just getting the leftover energy. Don't let good sex blind you to what's really going on.
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Alright, so in the last module, we talked about how a guy who’s cheating might pull away in the bedroom. And while that definitely happens a lot, what’s way more confusing is when he does the complete opposite. Out of the blue, he becomes more sexual, passionate, and attentive than he has been in months or even years.
So, what's behind this sudden 180? Well, it's almost always one of two powerful feelings: crushing guilt or an inflated ego.
First, let's talk about the guilt. Deep down, a man who's cheating knows he's doing something wrong, and that creates a nagging voice in his head. To make himself feel less like a total scumbag, he tries to balance his guilt by suddenly becoming amazing to you. In his mind, it's like, "Ok yeah, I screwed my co-worker last night, but I brought my girlfriend flowers and we had amazing sex today, so it all cancels out. We're good."
He's not necessarily doing it consciously. Instead, it's a guilt-driven impulse. If he can become the perfect boyfriend, showering you with attention, surprise dates, and more sex, that makes him feel less like a terrible person. One woman described this perfectly, saying, "When my boyfriend started his affair, he became so romantic and experimental overnight. I thought we were having this beautiful reconnection. But looking back, it felt desperate, like he was trying to prove something rather than just being with me."
The second, and often more powerful, reason their sex drive increases is all about ego. An affair can give a man a huge confidence boost. He's now getting validation from two different women, making him feel like an irresistible stud who can satisfy multiple women.
This feeling gets even more intense if the other woman is already in a relationship. Now, in his mind, he's not just getting laid on the side, he's winning some weird competition against a man he doesn’t even know. This other woman is choosing him over the guy she's actually committed to, risking her whole relationship just to be with him. She will tell him he's exciting, funnier, and better in bed than her husband, and it makes him feel like he's God's gift to women.
This ego trip floods his system with testosterone and supercharges his sex drive. As one man admitted, "After I started seeing my mistress, my sex life with my wife got way more frequent and intense." That high from being chosen by someone else lights a fire in him, and that fire often spreads to your bedroom.
So, how can you tell if this newfound passion is real or just a symptom of something else? The biggest red flag is the timing. When couples genuinely reconnect, it happens slowly as you both put in effort and work on things together. This fake passion, on the other hand, tends to appear suddenly, out of nowhere, with no real explanation.
Another sign is the inconsistency. One day he's all over you, making you feel like the most desirable person in the world, and the next he's distant and cold. This hot-and-cold behavior happens because his mind is split. When he's feeling good about the affair, that excited, sexual energy spills over onto you. But when he's stressed about it or missing the other woman, you might as well be invisible.
In the end, you have to trust your gut. If he's suddenly all over you but it feels weird or desperate, listen to that feeling. He might not be more passionate because he loves you more. It might be because some other woman is making him feel like hot shit, and you're just getting the leftover energy. Don't let good sex blind you to what's really going on.
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Transcript
Alright, so in the last module, we talked about how a guy who’s cheating might pull away in the bedroom. And while that definitely happens a lot, what’s way more confusing is when he does the complete opposite. Out of the blue, he becomes more sexual, passionate, and attentive than he has been in months or even years.
So, what's behind this sudden 180? Well, it's almost always one of two powerful feelings: crushing guilt or an inflated ego.
First, let's talk about the guilt. Deep down, a man who's cheating knows he's doing something wrong, and that creates a nagging voice in his head. To make himself feel less like a total scumbag, he tries to balance his guilt by suddenly becoming amazing to you. In his mind, it's like, "Ok yeah, I screwed my co-worker last night, but I brought my girlfriend flowers and we had amazing sex today, so it all cancels out. We're good."
He's not necessarily doing it consciously. Instead, it's a guilt-driven impulse. If he can become the perfect boyfriend, showering you with attention, surprise dates, and more sex, that makes him feel less like a terrible person. One woman described this perfectly, saying, "When my boyfriend started his affair, he became so romantic and experimental overnight. I thought we were having this beautiful reconnection. But looking back, it felt desperate, like he was trying to prove something rather than just being with me."
The second, and often more powerful, reason their sex drive increases is all about ego. An affair can give a man a huge confidence boost. He's now getting validation from two different women, making him feel like an irresistible stud who can satisfy multiple women.
This feeling gets even more intense if the other woman is already in a relationship. Now, in his mind, he's not just getting laid on the side, he's winning some weird competition against a man he doesn’t even know. This other woman is choosing him over the guy she's actually committed to, risking her whole relationship just to be with him. She will tell him he's exciting, funnier, and better in bed than her husband, and it makes him feel like he's God's gift to women.
This ego trip floods his system with testosterone and supercharges his sex drive. As one man admitted, "After I started seeing my mistress, my sex life with my wife got way more frequent and intense." That high from being chosen by someone else lights a fire in him, and that fire often spreads to your bedroom.
So, how can you tell if this newfound passion is real or just a symptom of something else? The biggest red flag is the timing. When couples genuinely reconnect, it happens slowly as you both put in effort and work on things together. This fake passion, on the other hand, tends to appear suddenly, out of nowhere, with no real explanation.
Another sign is the inconsistency. One day he's all over you, making you feel like the most desirable person in the world, and the next he's distant and cold. This hot-and-cold behavior happens because his mind is split. When he's feeling good about the affair, that excited, sexual energy spills over onto you. But when he's stressed about it or missing the other woman, you might as well be invisible.
In the end, you have to trust your gut. If he's suddenly all over you but it feels weird or desperate, listen to that feeling. He might not be more passionate because he loves you more. It might be because some other woman is making him feel like hot shit, and you're just getting the leftover energy. Don't let good sex blind you to what's really going on.