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It’s a strange thing, isn't it? When a guy cheats, his behavior in the bedroom sometimes goes one of two ways: he either becomes completely obsessed with sex, or he pulls away and wants nothing to do with it. You might be wondering why these reactions are so different. Well, there's a theory that gets talked about a lot by people who've been cheated on, and while it doesn't fit every situation, it’s pretty eye-opening and might help you make sense of what's going on.
The theory goes like this: it all depends on the kind of affair he's having.
If he's suddenly all over you and wants sex way more than usual, it could mean the affair is purely physical. He isn't falling in love with this other woman; he's just getting a cheap thrill from someone new. In his head, he still loves you, so he keeps sleeping with you too. He might even be feeling guilty about the cheating, so he tries to cover it up by being extra passionate at home.
One woman shared how her husband turned into a total sex machine while having an affair with a coworker. He was initiating every day, being more aggressive, and trying new things. After he was caught, he claimed it was just sex, and they were hooking up in his office after work. He wasn't texting her all day or planning a future. It was just a physical release, and that supercharged sex drive spilled over into his marriage.
But if he suddenly stops wanting to have sex with you? That’s when the affair could have become emotional. He’s not just sleeping with someone else; he's falling in love with them. His heart and his sexual energy are now going to this other person, and there's nothing left over for you.
Here’s the craziest part: some guys in emotional affairs actually feel like having sex with their own partner would be cheating on their affair partner. It's completely insane, right? They are literally cheating on you, but somehow, in their twisted logic, they convince themselves that sleeping with you, their actual girlfriend or wife, would be a betrayal of the other woman.
So they start acting like they're in a committed relationship with her instead of you. They'll turn you down for sex because they want to be "faithful" to the person they're not even supposed to be with. They’re basically treating you like you're the side piece in your own relationship.
One woman told a story about how her husband completely stopped sleeping with her once he got emotionally attached to his affair partner. They went from having sex two to four times a week to only thirteen times in an entire year. He even started sleeping in a separate room. All the while, he was constantly texting the other woman, sharing all his thoughts and feelings with her instead of his wife.
Now, this is just a theory, and it's definitely not a one-size-fits-all explanation. Some guys might pull away sexually just because they're exhausted from juggling two lives, or because the affair is taking up all their time and energy. Others might keep having sex with their partner out of habit or a sense of duty, even if their heart is somewhere else.
In the end, though, it doesn't really matter what type of affair he's having. The point is that any sudden, extreme change in your sex life, whether he wants it way more or way less, is a possible warning sign you shouldn’t ignore.
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It’s a strange thing, isn't it? When a guy cheats, his behavior in the bedroom sometimes goes one of two ways: he either becomes completely obsessed with sex, or he pulls away and wants nothing to do with it. You might be wondering why these reactions are so different. Well, there's a theory that gets talked about a lot by people who've been cheated on, and while it doesn't fit every situation, it’s pretty eye-opening and might help you make sense of what's going on.
The theory goes like this: it all depends on the kind of affair he's having.
If he's suddenly all over you and wants sex way more than usual, it could mean the affair is purely physical. He isn't falling in love with this other woman; he's just getting a cheap thrill from someone new. In his head, he still loves you, so he keeps sleeping with you too. He might even be feeling guilty about the cheating, so he tries to cover it up by being extra passionate at home.
One woman shared how her husband turned into a total sex machine while having an affair with a coworker. He was initiating every day, being more aggressive, and trying new things. After he was caught, he claimed it was just sex, and they were hooking up in his office after work. He wasn't texting her all day or planning a future. It was just a physical release, and that supercharged sex drive spilled over into his marriage.
But if he suddenly stops wanting to have sex with you? That’s when the affair could have become emotional. He’s not just sleeping with someone else; he's falling in love with them. His heart and his sexual energy are now going to this other person, and there's nothing left over for you.
Here’s the craziest part: some guys in emotional affairs actually feel like having sex with their own partner would be cheating on their affair partner. It's completely insane, right? They are literally cheating on you, but somehow, in their twisted logic, they convince themselves that sleeping with you, their actual girlfriend or wife, would be a betrayal of the other woman.
So they start acting like they're in a committed relationship with her instead of you. They'll turn you down for sex because they want to be "faithful" to the person they're not even supposed to be with. They’re basically treating you like you're the side piece in your own relationship.
One woman told a story about how her husband completely stopped sleeping with her once he got emotionally attached to his affair partner. They went from having sex two to four times a week to only thirteen times in an entire year. He even started sleeping in a separate room. All the while, he was constantly texting the other woman, sharing all his thoughts and feelings with her instead of his wife.
Now, this is just a theory, and it's definitely not a one-size-fits-all explanation. Some guys might pull away sexually just because they're exhausted from juggling two lives, or because the affair is taking up all their time and energy. Others might keep having sex with their partner out of habit or a sense of duty, even if their heart is somewhere else.
In the end, though, it doesn't really matter what type of affair he's having. The point is that any sudden, extreme change in your sex life, whether he wants it way more or way less, is a possible warning sign you shouldn’t ignore.
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Transcript
It’s a strange thing, isn't it? When a guy cheats, his behavior in the bedroom sometimes goes one of two ways: he either becomes completely obsessed with sex, or he pulls away and wants nothing to do with it. You might be wondering why these reactions are so different. Well, there's a theory that gets talked about a lot by people who've been cheated on, and while it doesn't fit every situation, it’s pretty eye-opening and might help you make sense of what's going on.
The theory goes like this: it all depends on the kind of affair he's having.
If he's suddenly all over you and wants sex way more than usual, it could mean the affair is purely physical. He isn't falling in love with this other woman; he's just getting a cheap thrill from someone new. In his head, he still loves you, so he keeps sleeping with you too. He might even be feeling guilty about the cheating, so he tries to cover it up by being extra passionate at home.
One woman shared how her husband turned into a total sex machine while having an affair with a coworker. He was initiating every day, being more aggressive, and trying new things. After he was caught, he claimed it was just sex, and they were hooking up in his office after work. He wasn't texting her all day or planning a future. It was just a physical release, and that supercharged sex drive spilled over into his marriage.
But if he suddenly stops wanting to have sex with you? That’s when the affair could have become emotional. He’s not just sleeping with someone else; he's falling in love with them. His heart and his sexual energy are now going to this other person, and there's nothing left over for you.
Here’s the craziest part: some guys in emotional affairs actually feel like having sex with their own partner would be cheating on their affair partner. It's completely insane, right? They are literally cheating on you, but somehow, in their twisted logic, they convince themselves that sleeping with you, their actual girlfriend or wife, would be a betrayal of the other woman.
So they start acting like they're in a committed relationship with her instead of you. They'll turn you down for sex because they want to be "faithful" to the person they're not even supposed to be with. They’re basically treating you like you're the side piece in your own relationship.
One woman told a story about how her husband completely stopped sleeping with her once he got emotionally attached to his affair partner. They went from having sex two to four times a week to only thirteen times in an entire year. He even started sleeping in a separate room. All the while, he was constantly texting the other woman, sharing all his thoughts and feelings with her instead of his wife.
Now, this is just a theory, and it's definitely not a one-size-fits-all explanation. Some guys might pull away sexually just because they're exhausted from juggling two lives, or because the affair is taking up all their time and energy. Others might keep having sex with their partner out of habit or a sense of duty, even if their heart is somewhere else.
In the end, though, it doesn't really matter what type of affair he's having. The point is that any sudden, extreme change in your sex life, whether he wants it way more or way less, is a possible warning sign you shouldn’t ignore.