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Hi, I'm really glad you've made it this far. I know some of this hasn't been easy to hear, but I hope it's been eye-opening. Before we go any further, I just want to repeat this: don't let him know you're onto anything yet. Your best move is to act like you have no clue. Keep playing dumb. Let him think he's getting away with it. That's when guys stop covering their tracks properly. That's when they get lazy and you get the proof you need.
This is going to be especially important for what we're about to get into, which is the money side of cheating. Because whether he's paying for Tinder, prostitutes, or wining and dining Becky from marketing, it all costs money. And in today's world, money always leaves a trail. Over the next few modules, we're going to follow that trail together. I'll show you how men hide their spending, exactly what to look for on statements, how to find secret accounts, and even how to spot if he's stealing from you.
If you've ever wondered whether money leaves clues, consider this: back in 2011, the vice president of Google Search, Marissa Mayer , said that credit card companies have enough data to predict with 98% accuracy if a couple is going to get divorced, two years before it even happens. If a credit card company can see the signs from a mile away, just imagine what you, the person closest to him, can uncover once you know where to look.
So, what are cheaters actually spending their money on? Let's start with the most common one: restaurants and fancy meals. A guy who is trying to impress someone new isn't taking her to McDonald's. He's trying to create a fantasy. So when you're looking at a credit card statement and see a $200 charge at a high-end sushi place you've never been to, especially when he claims to hate raw fish and hasn't taken you on a real date since your anniversary, you have every right to be suspicious. He's not treating his buddies to a five-star meal, and why would he put a client lunch on his personal card? Look for charges at restaurants that are completely out of character or places you've never been together. Not only could he be cheating, but he's also eating better than you.
From fancy dinners, the evening often moves to a hotel, which should be an obvious red flag. But you would be shocked at how many men are careless enough to put a hotel charge on a shared credit card. Look for those random hotel bookings that don't line up with any business trips or family visits he's told you about. One woman had a gut feeling, so she called a hotel chain her husband frequented for work. She simply said she'd stayed there with him recently and forgot to add her rewards points. She asked if they could email her the receipts from his last few stays. They sent her everything in five minutes. It turned out he had been there multiple times without her, always paying in cash but booking the room under his own name.
Then, of course, there are gifts. When you find receipts for gifts you never received, you know someone else did. Check his wallet, the pockets of his coats, his bag, and his desk drawers, because men are incredibly careless with receipts. If your credit card bill shows charges from jewelry stores, lingerie boutiques, or florists, and you didn't get any of that stuff, well, someone did.
One woman got a beautiful pair of earrings from her husband for her birthday. A few days later, she was cleaning out his suit pockets and found the receipt from the jewelry store. What was strange was that the receipt was for two identical pairs of earrings. When she asked him about it, he stumbled and couldn't come up with an explanation. The mystery was solved a few weeks later when she visited his office and saw his secretary wearing the exact same pair.
Sometimes the gifts themselves are hiding in plain sight. Check common hiding spots. Under the bed or in the back of closets. On random shelves in the garage and especially in his car. If you find a gift that is obviously not for you; it's the wrong size, a style you'd never wear, or worse, has another woman's name on it, just take a mental note. Wait a week or two, then check the spot again. If the gift is gone and you never received it, you know he gave it to someone else.
We've covered a lot here already. Let's continue with more in the next part.
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Hi, I'm really glad you've made it this far. I know some of this hasn't been easy to hear, but I hope it's been eye-opening. Before we go any further, I just want to repeat this: don't let him know you're onto anything yet. Your best move is to act like you have no clue. Keep playing dumb. Let him think he's getting away with it. That's when guys stop covering their tracks properly. That's when they get lazy and you get the proof you need.
This is going to be especially important for what we're about to get into, which is the money side of cheating. Because whether he's paying for Tinder, prostitutes, or wining and dining Becky from marketing, it all costs money. And in today's world, money always leaves a trail. Over the next few modules, we're going to follow that trail together. I'll show you how men hide their spending, exactly what to look for on statements, how to find secret accounts, and even how to spot if he's stealing from you.
If you've ever wondered whether money leaves clues, consider this: back in 2011, the vice president of Google Search, Marissa Mayer , said that credit card companies have enough data to predict with 98% accuracy if a couple is going to get divorced, two years before it even happens. If a credit card company can see the signs from a mile away, just imagine what you, the person closest to him, can uncover once you know where to look.
So, what are cheaters actually spending their money on? Let's start with the most common one: restaurants and fancy meals. A guy who is trying to impress someone new isn't taking her to McDonald's. He's trying to create a fantasy. So when you're looking at a credit card statement and see a $200 charge at a high-end sushi place you've never been to, especially when he claims to hate raw fish and hasn't taken you on a real date since your anniversary, you have every right to be suspicious. He's not treating his buddies to a five-star meal, and why would he put a client lunch on his personal card? Look for charges at restaurants that are completely out of character or places you've never been together. Not only could he be cheating, but he's also eating better than you.
From fancy dinners, the evening often moves to a hotel, which should be an obvious red flag. But you would be shocked at how many men are careless enough to put a hotel charge on a shared credit card. Look for those random hotel bookings that don't line up with any business trips or family visits he's told you about. One woman had a gut feeling, so she called a hotel chain her husband frequented for work. She simply said she'd stayed there with him recently and forgot to add her rewards points. She asked if they could email her the receipts from his last few stays. They sent her everything in five minutes. It turned out he had been there multiple times without her, always paying in cash but booking the room under his own name.
Then, of course, there are gifts. When you find receipts for gifts you never received, you know someone else did. Check his wallet, the pockets of his coats, his bag, and his desk drawers, because men are incredibly careless with receipts. If your credit card bill shows charges from jewelry stores, lingerie boutiques, or florists, and you didn't get any of that stuff, well, someone did.
One woman got a beautiful pair of earrings from her husband for her birthday. A few days later, she was cleaning out his suit pockets and found the receipt from the jewelry store. What was strange was that the receipt was for two identical pairs of earrings. When she asked him about it, he stumbled and couldn't come up with an explanation. The mystery was solved a few weeks later when she visited his office and saw his secretary wearing the exact same pair.
Sometimes the gifts themselves are hiding in plain sight. Check common hiding spots. Under the bed or in the back of closets. On random shelves in the garage and especially in his car. If you find a gift that is obviously not for you; it's the wrong size, a style you'd never wear, or worse, has another woman's name on it, just take a mental note. Wait a week or two, then check the spot again. If the gift is gone and you never received it, you know he gave it to someone else.
We've covered a lot here already. Let's continue with more in the next part.
Read More
Transcript
Hi, I'm really glad you've made it this far. I know some of this hasn't been easy to hear, but I hope it's been eye-opening. Before we go any further, I just want to repeat this: don't let him know you're onto anything yet. Your best move is to act like you have no clue. Keep playing dumb. Let him think he's getting away with it. That's when guys stop covering their tracks properly. That's when they get lazy and you get the proof you need.
This is going to be especially important for what we're about to get into, which is the money side of cheating. Because whether he's paying for Tinder, prostitutes, or wining and dining Becky from marketing, it all costs money. And in today's world, money always leaves a trail. Over the next few modules, we're going to follow that trail together. I'll show you how men hide their spending, exactly what to look for on statements, how to find secret accounts, and even how to spot if he's stealing from you.
If you've ever wondered whether money leaves clues, consider this: back in 2011, the vice president of Google Search, Marissa Mayer , said that credit card companies have enough data to predict with 98% accuracy if a couple is going to get divorced, two years before it even happens. If a credit card company can see the signs from a mile away, just imagine what you, the person closest to him, can uncover once you know where to look.
So, what are cheaters actually spending their money on? Let's start with the most common one: restaurants and fancy meals. A guy who is trying to impress someone new isn't taking her to McDonald's. He's trying to create a fantasy. So when you're looking at a credit card statement and see a $200 charge at a high-end sushi place you've never been to, especially when he claims to hate raw fish and hasn't taken you on a real date since your anniversary, you have every right to be suspicious. He's not treating his buddies to a five-star meal, and why would he put a client lunch on his personal card? Look for charges at restaurants that are completely out of character or places you've never been together. Not only could he be cheating, but he's also eating better than you.
From fancy dinners, the evening often moves to a hotel, which should be an obvious red flag. But you would be shocked at how many men are careless enough to put a hotel charge on a shared credit card. Look for those random hotel bookings that don't line up with any business trips or family visits he's told you about. One woman had a gut feeling, so she called a hotel chain her husband frequented for work. She simply said she'd stayed there with him recently and forgot to add her rewards points. She asked if they could email her the receipts from his last few stays. They sent her everything in five minutes. It turned out he had been there multiple times without her, always paying in cash but booking the room under his own name.
Then, of course, there are gifts. When you find receipts for gifts you never received, you know someone else did. Check his wallet, the pockets of his coats, his bag, and his desk drawers, because men are incredibly careless with receipts. If your credit card bill shows charges from jewelry stores, lingerie boutiques, or florists, and you didn't get any of that stuff, well, someone did.
One woman got a beautiful pair of earrings from her husband for her birthday. A few days later, she was cleaning out his suit pockets and found the receipt from the jewelry store. What was strange was that the receipt was for two identical pairs of earrings. When she asked him about it, he stumbled and couldn't come up with an explanation. The mystery was solved a few weeks later when she visited his office and saw his secretary wearing the exact same pair.
Sometimes the gifts themselves are hiding in plain sight. Check common hiding spots. Under the bed or in the back of closets. On random shelves in the garage and especially in his car. If you find a gift that is obviously not for you; it's the wrong size, a style you'd never wear, or worse, has another woman's name on it, just take a mental note. Wait a week or two, then check the spot again. If the gift is gone and you never received it, you know he gave it to someone else.
We've covered a lot here already. Let's continue with more in the next part.