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So we’ve talked about the obvious stuff like mysterious hotel charges and dinners for two, but a cheater’s real secrets are often hidden in the everyday expenses you might not even think to check.
Let’s start with something you probably see every week: his car. If he used to spend about sixty dollars a week on gas, but suddenly his bank statement shows it’s doubled, that could be a red flag. And it’s not just about the money; it’s about where he’s filling up. If you start seeing charges from gas stations in strange parts of town, nowhere near his job or your home, you have every right to get suspicious. Check any receipts he leaves in his car and just Google the addresses. One woman did exactly that. She noticed every single BP receipt was from the same location. It turned out to be just one block away from the other woman’s apartment.
And it’s not just his car that has a secret trail; it’s his phone. If you share a family plan, you might notice that Verizon has suddenly charged you for a second phone line you didn’t know about. If he’s only carrying one phone, you have to ask yourself where that second one is hiding.
This pattern of lying about his time and money often spills over into his work life. Let’s say your partner works a job like construction, for the government, or any blue-collar profession where overtime is common. If he starts claiming he’s working late nights, but when you look at your finances, his paystub is exactly the same, that doesn’t add up. Those jobs track hours carefully and pay for overtime, so all those extra hours should be making his paycheck bigger, not smaller. If you ask to see his paystub and he gets defensive, you’ll know he’s not really at work.
When a man is spending this much money behind your back, it can spiral out of control. You might find out he’s sending cash directly to some random Venmo account, or you see charges for gift cards that make no sense. In some of the worst cases, he could even be getting blackmailed by the other woman. This is when you’ll see the real financial damage start to show up. He might start missing bill payments, suddenly need to borrow money, or randomly start transferring cash between accounts for no good reason. If he’s suddenly stressed about money but can’t give you a straight answer why, it could be because he’s secretly supporting someone else’s entire lifestyle.
Cheaters need a way to pay for everything without you finding out. So they get very creative. Some use prepaid credit cards, PayPal, and even fake purchases on Amazon or eBay. One cheater admitted on a forum “I was meeting her for lunch almost daily, and our hotel visits were three or four times per week. Covering that was very difficult. I opened a PayPal account, got a PayPal debit card, and attached a personal checking account to it. I would make online transfers into PayPal, and my wife couldn’t see any of my transactions.”
And then there’s the whole hidden world of online spending. Things like porn sites, cam girls, hookup apps, and OnlyFans subscriptions don’t show up on a bank statement with their real names. It’s never going to say “OnlyFans.com” in black and white. Instead, they use what are called ghost companies to disguise the charges and hide what they really are.
Later on, I’m going to show you exactly what those ghost company names look like on a real statement, so you can see for yourself what businesses they’re actually hiding.
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So we’ve talked about the obvious stuff like mysterious hotel charges and dinners for two, but a cheater’s real secrets are often hidden in the everyday expenses you might not even think to check.
Let’s start with something you probably see every week: his car. If he used to spend about sixty dollars a week on gas, but suddenly his bank statement shows it’s doubled, that could be a red flag. And it’s not just about the money; it’s about where he’s filling up. If you start seeing charges from gas stations in strange parts of town, nowhere near his job or your home, you have every right to get suspicious. Check any receipts he leaves in his car and just Google the addresses. One woman did exactly that. She noticed every single BP receipt was from the same location. It turned out to be just one block away from the other woman’s apartment.
And it’s not just his car that has a secret trail; it’s his phone. If you share a family plan, you might notice that Verizon has suddenly charged you for a second phone line you didn’t know about. If he’s only carrying one phone, you have to ask yourself where that second one is hiding.
This pattern of lying about his time and money often spills over into his work life. Let’s say your partner works a job like construction, for the government, or any blue-collar profession where overtime is common. If he starts claiming he’s working late nights, but when you look at your finances, his paystub is exactly the same, that doesn’t add up. Those jobs track hours carefully and pay for overtime, so all those extra hours should be making his paycheck bigger, not smaller. If you ask to see his paystub and he gets defensive, you’ll know he’s not really at work.
When a man is spending this much money behind your back, it can spiral out of control. You might find out he’s sending cash directly to some random Venmo account, or you see charges for gift cards that make no sense. In some of the worst cases, he could even be getting blackmailed by the other woman. This is when you’ll see the real financial damage start to show up. He might start missing bill payments, suddenly need to borrow money, or randomly start transferring cash between accounts for no good reason. If he’s suddenly stressed about money but can’t give you a straight answer why, it could be because he’s secretly supporting someone else’s entire lifestyle.
Cheaters need a way to pay for everything without you finding out. So they get very creative. Some use prepaid credit cards, PayPal, and even fake purchases on Amazon or eBay. One cheater admitted on a forum “I was meeting her for lunch almost daily, and our hotel visits were three or four times per week. Covering that was very difficult. I opened a PayPal account, got a PayPal debit card, and attached a personal checking account to it. I would make online transfers into PayPal, and my wife couldn’t see any of my transactions.”
And then there’s the whole hidden world of online spending. Things like porn sites, cam girls, hookup apps, and OnlyFans subscriptions don’t show up on a bank statement with their real names. It’s never going to say “OnlyFans.com” in black and white. Instead, they use what are called ghost companies to disguise the charges and hide what they really are.
Later on, I’m going to show you exactly what those ghost company names look like on a real statement, so you can see for yourself what businesses they’re actually hiding.
Read More
Transcript
So we’ve talked about the obvious stuff like mysterious hotel charges and dinners for two, but a cheater’s real secrets are often hidden in the everyday expenses you might not even think to check.
Let’s start with something you probably see every week: his car. If he used to spend about sixty dollars a week on gas, but suddenly his bank statement shows it’s doubled, that could be a red flag. And it’s not just about the money; it’s about where he’s filling up. If you start seeing charges from gas stations in strange parts of town, nowhere near his job or your home, you have every right to get suspicious. Check any receipts he leaves in his car and just Google the addresses. One woman did exactly that. She noticed every single BP receipt was from the same location. It turned out to be just one block away from the other woman’s apartment.
And it’s not just his car that has a secret trail; it’s his phone. If you share a family plan, you might notice that Verizon has suddenly charged you for a second phone line you didn’t know about. If he’s only carrying one phone, you have to ask yourself where that second one is hiding.
This pattern of lying about his time and money often spills over into his work life. Let’s say your partner works a job like construction, for the government, or any blue-collar profession where overtime is common. If he starts claiming he’s working late nights, but when you look at your finances, his paystub is exactly the same, that doesn’t add up. Those jobs track hours carefully and pay for overtime, so all those extra hours should be making his paycheck bigger, not smaller. If you ask to see his paystub and he gets defensive, you’ll know he’s not really at work.
When a man is spending this much money behind your back, it can spiral out of control. You might find out he’s sending cash directly to some random Venmo account, or you see charges for gift cards that make no sense. In some of the worst cases, he could even be getting blackmailed by the other woman. This is when you’ll see the real financial damage start to show up. He might start missing bill payments, suddenly need to borrow money, or randomly start transferring cash between accounts for no good reason. If he’s suddenly stressed about money but can’t give you a straight answer why, it could be because he’s secretly supporting someone else’s entire lifestyle.
Cheaters need a way to pay for everything without you finding out. So they get very creative. Some use prepaid credit cards, PayPal, and even fake purchases on Amazon or eBay. One cheater admitted on a forum “I was meeting her for lunch almost daily, and our hotel visits were three or four times per week. Covering that was very difficult. I opened a PayPal account, got a PayPal debit card, and attached a personal checking account to it. I would make online transfers into PayPal, and my wife couldn’t see any of my transactions.”
And then there’s the whole hidden world of online spending. Things like porn sites, cam girls, hookup apps, and OnlyFans subscriptions don’t show up on a bank statement with their real names. It’s never going to say “OnlyFans.com” in black and white. Instead, they use what are called ghost companies to disguise the charges and hide what they really are.
Later on, I’m going to show you exactly what those ghost company names look like on a real statement, so you can see for yourself what businesses they’re actually hiding.