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Module: 51
What the Statements Say
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So maybe over the past couple of modules, you’ve been wondering how you can actually find this stuff. Like, okay, cool, now I know what line items to look for… but how do I actually get proof?
Let’s start with what not to do. Do not try to log into your partner’s computer or bank account with passwords you know, this can break privacy laws and won’t be admissible in divorce court.
Here’s what you can do legally. If you’re married or have joint accounts, you have every right to look at those financial records. Check your joint debit and credit card accounts online. When the bank statement comes in the mail, open it, look at the purchases, and take photos. You’re allowed to see where your money is going.
If he suddenly makes it hard to find banking statements, that’s a red flag. Maybe statements that used to come to your house are now going to a PO box you didn’t know about. Or he switched everything to online statements and changed the passwords. If you call the credit card company and there’s suddenly a password on the account that didn’t exist before, something’s up.
You can run credit reports legally too. Go to annualcreditreport.com. Everyone gets one free credit report per year from each bureau. Run one on yourself to make sure he hasn’t opened accounts in your name. You won’t always see everything on your partner’s credit report, especially if the accounts were opened under just their name. When you finish this program and feel like you have enough suspicion, you can always ask them to pull their own report and go through it together. It’ll show new accounts, phone plans, and strange balances. If they get weird about it or refuse, ask yourself: what are they hiding?
Even if you have their Social Security number and personal details, pulling their credit report yourself would still be illegal. But you can access the header section, which shows all the addresses linked to their name over the last ten years. So if bills are being sent to a secret PO box or a sketchy address, that’s where it’ll show up. Also, talk to your lawyer. They can demand a credit report as part of financial discovery in a divorce.
There are also background check websites like BeenVerified.com that cost around fifteen dollars and will show you addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, and even traffic tickets. You might find out he got speeding tickets in areas he had no reason to be in, or discover addresses where he’s been recently that you’ve never heard of.
Let me give you a real example of how powerful this stuff can be. There is a story on www.thegirlfriend.com that talks about Sheila, who, after thirty-six years of marriage, started to suspect something wasn’t right. One night she couldn’t sleep and decided to run a credit report on him. What she found was wild: two PO boxes, three secret bank accounts, and over $170,000 stashed away. She also discovered her husband had been hoarding gold coins in the attic, $275,000 worth hidden in grocery bags. She photographed everything and gave it to her lawyer. At the divorce hearing, his lawyer was blindsided. Sheila had proof he was hiding assets from her, and it gave her the upper hand.
One thing you need to understand is that courts do not care if he cheated. But they do care if he spent your shared money wining and dining someone else. Hotel rooms, fancy dinners, gifts, travel, if he used your marital assets to fund the affair, you can go after it. It’s called dissipation of marital assets, and if you’ve got proof, you can demand that money back.
So write it all down. Keep records in your journal. Take photos. Save receipts. Track every shady thing you find. It’s not just about catching him; it’s about protecting yourself legally and financially. If it ends in divorce proceedings, your lawyer can use that information to fight for what you’re owed.
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Transcript
So maybe over the past couple of modules, you’ve been wondering how you can actually find this stuff. Like, okay, cool, now I know what line items to look for… but how do I actually get proof?
Let’s start with what not to do. Do not try to log into your partner’s computer or bank account with passwords you know, this can break privacy laws and won’t be admissible in divorce court.
Here’s what you can do legally. If you’re married or have joint accounts, you have every right to look at those financial records. Check your joint debit and credit card accounts online. When the bank statement comes in the mail, open it, look at the purchases, and take photos. You’re allowed to see where your money is going.
If he suddenly makes it hard to find banking statements, that’s a red flag. Maybe statements that used to come to your house are now going to a PO box you didn’t know about. Or he switched everything to online statements and changed the passwords. If you call the credit card company and there’s suddenly a password on the account that didn’t exist before, something’s up.
You can run credit reports legally too. Go to annualcreditreport.com. Everyone gets one free credit report per year from each bureau. Run one on yourself to make sure he hasn’t opened accounts in your name. You won’t always see everything on your partner’s credit report, especially if the accounts were opened under just their name. When you finish this program and feel like you have enough suspicion, you can always ask them to pull their own report and go through it together. It’ll show new accounts, phone plans, and strange balances. If they get weird about it or refuse, ask yourself: what are they hiding?
Even if you have their Social Security number and personal details, pulling their credit report yourself would still be illegal. But you can access the header section, which shows all the addresses linked to their name over the last ten years. So if bills are being sent to a secret PO box or a sketchy address, that’s where it’ll show up. Also, talk to your lawyer. They can demand a credit report as part of financial discovery in a divorce.
There are also background check websites like BeenVerified.com that cost around fifteen dollars and will show you addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, and even traffic tickets. You might find out he got speeding tickets in areas he had no reason to be in, or discover addresses where he’s been recently that you’ve never heard of.
Let me give you a real example of how powerful this stuff can be. There is a story on www.thegirlfriend.com that talks about Sheila, who, after thirty-six years of marriage, started to suspect something wasn’t right. One night she couldn’t sleep and decided to run a credit report on him. What she found was wild: two PO boxes, three secret bank accounts, and over $170,000 stashed away. She also discovered her husband had been hoarding gold coins in the attic, $275,000 worth hidden in grocery bags. She photographed everything and gave it to her lawyer. At the divorce hearing, his lawyer was blindsided. Sheila had proof he was hiding assets from her, and it gave her the upper hand.
One thing you need to understand is that courts do not care if he cheated. But they do care if he spent your shared money wining and dining someone else. Hotel rooms, fancy dinners, gifts, travel, if he used your marital assets to fund the affair, you can go after it. It’s called dissipation of marital assets, and if you’ve got proof, you can demand that money back.
So write it all down. Keep records in your journal. Take photos. Save receipts. Track every shady thing you find. It’s not just about catching him; it’s about protecting yourself legally and financially. If it ends in divorce proceedings, your lawyer can use that information to fight for what you’re owed.
Read More
Transcript
So maybe over the past couple of modules, you’ve been wondering how you can actually find this stuff. Like, okay, cool, now I know what line items to look for… but how do I actually get proof?
Let’s start with what not to do. Do not try to log into your partner’s computer or bank account with passwords you know, this can break privacy laws and won’t be admissible in divorce court.
Here’s what you can do legally. If you’re married or have joint accounts, you have every right to look at those financial records. Check your joint debit and credit card accounts online. When the bank statement comes in the mail, open it, look at the purchases, and take photos. You’re allowed to see where your money is going.
If he suddenly makes it hard to find banking statements, that’s a red flag. Maybe statements that used to come to your house are now going to a PO box you didn’t know about. Or he switched everything to online statements and changed the passwords. If you call the credit card company and there’s suddenly a password on the account that didn’t exist before, something’s up.
You can run credit reports legally too. Go to annualcreditreport.com. Everyone gets one free credit report per year from each bureau. Run one on yourself to make sure he hasn’t opened accounts in your name. You won’t always see everything on your partner’s credit report, especially if the accounts were opened under just their name. When you finish this program and feel like you have enough suspicion, you can always ask them to pull their own report and go through it together. It’ll show new accounts, phone plans, and strange balances. If they get weird about it or refuse, ask yourself: what are they hiding?
Even if you have their Social Security number and personal details, pulling their credit report yourself would still be illegal. But you can access the header section, which shows all the addresses linked to their name over the last ten years. So if bills are being sent to a secret PO box or a sketchy address, that’s where it’ll show up. Also, talk to your lawyer. They can demand a credit report as part of financial discovery in a divorce.
There are also background check websites like BeenVerified.com that cost around fifteen dollars and will show you addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, and even traffic tickets. You might find out he got speeding tickets in areas he had no reason to be in, or discover addresses where he’s been recently that you’ve never heard of.
Let me give you a real example of how powerful this stuff can be. There is a story on www.thegirlfriend.com that talks about Sheila, who, after thirty-six years of marriage, started to suspect something wasn’t right. One night she couldn’t sleep and decided to run a credit report on him. What she found was wild: two PO boxes, three secret bank accounts, and over $170,000 stashed away. She also discovered her husband had been hoarding gold coins in the attic, $275,000 worth hidden in grocery bags. She photographed everything and gave it to her lawyer. At the divorce hearing, his lawyer was blindsided. Sheila had proof he was hiding assets from her, and it gave her the upper hand.
One thing you need to understand is that courts do not care if he cheated. But they do care if he spent your shared money wining and dining someone else. Hotel rooms, fancy dinners, gifts, travel, if he used your marital assets to fund the affair, you can go after it. It’s called dissipation of marital assets, and if you’ve got proof, you can demand that money back.
So write it all down. Keep records in your journal. Take photos. Save receipts. Track every shady thing you find. It’s not just about catching him; it’s about protecting yourself legally and financially. If it ends in divorce proceedings, your lawyer can use that information to fight for what you’re owed.