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Alright, let’s talk about what you’re actually looking for on your bank statement. Some charges will be obvious red flags, like hotels, gifts, or flowers that you know weren’t for you. But the really sneaky stuff, like charges from strip clubs or adult websites, will almost always be hidden under fake company names.
The easiest place to start digging is with travel and transportation. If he’s booking trips or hotels and not telling you, that’s a problem right there. Or maybe you see a charge from a Hilton or a Holiday Inn for one night, in your own city, that he never mentioned. Same goes for an Airbnb booking that doesn’t match any trip you two planned. And keep an eye out for weirdly short car rentals or late-night Uber rides to places that don’t make sense with where he said he was.
It’s the same thing with gifts. If you see money being spent but you’re not the one getting the presents, then someone else probably is. Maybe you notice a charge from a jewelry store like Kay or Tiffany & Co., but you never got a gift. Or you see a charge from Victoria’s Secret, but there’s nothing new in your drawer.
When it comes to adult sites, they never put their real name on the bill. They hide behind fake ghost company names. For instance, you’ll never see a charge that says “OnlyFans.” Instead, it might show up as something like “Fenix International” or just “O.F. Online.” Pornhub Premium often hides behind names like “Probiller.com” or “MG Billing,” and Brazzers might use “Epoch.com” or “CCBill.” They all look like random, boring payment processors.
Shady massage parlors and escort services do the exact same thing. They’ll use professional-sounding names to hide what they really are. You might see something like “Wellness Center,” “Holistic Touch,” or “Therapeutic Spa.” Sometimes it’s even more vague, like “XYZ Holdings” or “Entertainment Group.”
And a trip to the strip club is definitely not going to show up as “Big Booty Gentlemen’s Lounge” on the statement. It’ll be disguised as something boring, like “B&T Food and Beverage,” “Club Management Services,” or something generic like “123 Corp.” Sometimes it just says “Restaurant” or “Bar.” The charge will look totally innocent, like “RSVP Entertainment Group – $280,” and you’d never think twice unless you knew what to look for.
Basically, if you see a company name that sounds super generic or you can’t find it with a quick Google search, that’s your sign. Real businesses want you to know who they are. Shady ones don’t.
So what if you find something? Listen to me. Your first instinct is going to be to confront him right then and there. Don’t do it. Not yet. Let it go a little longer and get more proof. Screenshot everything. Print it out. Keep a journal and track it all. Save copies to a cloud folder he can’t get into. And start putting some money aside for yourself, just in case.
When you do finally talk to him, be ready for him to turn it all around on you. He won’t confess. He’ll get angry and ask why you were snooping, and he’ll try to make it about your “trust issues.” That’s why you need to be calm and have all your facts lined up.
And please, be careful. I’m serious. You never know how someone will react when they’re cornered. Men can get violent. If you feel unsafe at all, leave and call someone you trust.
Just remember, guys like this rarely change. There was a woman on a cheating forum who found out her husband was cheating through his credit card bills. They got divorced. A few years later, the other woman was the new wife, and guess who showed up asking for advice with her own set of bank statements? Yep. He was cheating on her too.
So trust what you see. Don’t let him convince you that you’re crazy.
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Transcript
Alright, let’s talk about what you’re actually looking for on your bank statement. Some charges will be obvious red flags, like hotels, gifts, or flowers that you know weren’t for you. But the really sneaky stuff, like charges from strip clubs or adult websites, will almost always be hidden under fake company names.
The easiest place to start digging is with travel and transportation. If he’s booking trips or hotels and not telling you, that’s a problem right there. Or maybe you see a charge from a Hilton or a Holiday Inn for one night, in your own city, that he never mentioned. Same goes for an Airbnb booking that doesn’t match any trip you two planned. And keep an eye out for weirdly short car rentals or late-night Uber rides to places that don’t make sense with where he said he was.
It’s the same thing with gifts. If you see money being spent but you’re not the one getting the presents, then someone else probably is. Maybe you notice a charge from a jewelry store like Kay or Tiffany & Co., but you never got a gift. Or you see a charge from Victoria’s Secret, but there’s nothing new in your drawer.
When it comes to adult sites, they never put their real name on the bill. They hide behind fake ghost company names. For instance, you’ll never see a charge that says “OnlyFans.” Instead, it might show up as something like “Fenix International” or just “O.F. Online.” Pornhub Premium often hides behind names like “Probiller.com” or “MG Billing,” and Brazzers might use “Epoch.com” or “CCBill.” They all look like random, boring payment processors.
Shady massage parlors and escort services do the exact same thing. They’ll use professional-sounding names to hide what they really are. You might see something like “Wellness Center,” “Holistic Touch,” or “Therapeutic Spa.” Sometimes it’s even more vague, like “XYZ Holdings” or “Entertainment Group.”
And a trip to the strip club is definitely not going to show up as “Big Booty Gentlemen’s Lounge” on the statement. It’ll be disguised as something boring, like “B&T Food and Beverage,” “Club Management Services,” or something generic like “123 Corp.” Sometimes it just says “Restaurant” or “Bar.” The charge will look totally innocent, like “RSVP Entertainment Group – $280,” and you’d never think twice unless you knew what to look for.
Basically, if you see a company name that sounds super generic or you can’t find it with a quick Google search, that’s your sign. Real businesses want you to know who they are. Shady ones don’t.
So what if you find something? Listen to me. Your first instinct is going to be to confront him right then and there. Don’t do it. Not yet. Let it go a little longer and get more proof. Screenshot everything. Print it out. Keep a journal and track it all. Save copies to a cloud folder he can’t get into. And start putting some money aside for yourself, just in case.
When you do finally talk to him, be ready for him to turn it all around on you. He won’t confess. He’ll get angry and ask why you were snooping, and he’ll try to make it about your “trust issues.” That’s why you need to be calm and have all your facts lined up.
And please, be careful. I’m serious. You never know how someone will react when they’re cornered. Men can get violent. If you feel unsafe at all, leave and call someone you trust.
Just remember, guys like this rarely change. There was a woman on a cheating forum who found out her husband was cheating through his credit card bills. They got divorced. A few years later, the other woman was the new wife, and guess who showed up asking for advice with her own set of bank statements? Yep. He was cheating on her too.
So trust what you see. Don’t let him convince you that you’re crazy.
Read More
Transcript
Alright, let’s talk about what you’re actually looking for on your bank statement. Some charges will be obvious red flags, like hotels, gifts, or flowers that you know weren’t for you. But the really sneaky stuff, like charges from strip clubs or adult websites, will almost always be hidden under fake company names.
The easiest place to start digging is with travel and transportation. If he’s booking trips or hotels and not telling you, that’s a problem right there. Or maybe you see a charge from a Hilton or a Holiday Inn for one night, in your own city, that he never mentioned. Same goes for an Airbnb booking that doesn’t match any trip you two planned. And keep an eye out for weirdly short car rentals or late-night Uber rides to places that don’t make sense with where he said he was.
It’s the same thing with gifts. If you see money being spent but you’re not the one getting the presents, then someone else probably is. Maybe you notice a charge from a jewelry store like Kay or Tiffany & Co., but you never got a gift. Or you see a charge from Victoria’s Secret, but there’s nothing new in your drawer.
When it comes to adult sites, they never put their real name on the bill. They hide behind fake ghost company names. For instance, you’ll never see a charge that says “OnlyFans.” Instead, it might show up as something like “Fenix International” or just “O.F. Online.” Pornhub Premium often hides behind names like “Probiller.com” or “MG Billing,” and Brazzers might use “Epoch.com” or “CCBill.” They all look like random, boring payment processors.
Shady massage parlors and escort services do the exact same thing. They’ll use professional-sounding names to hide what they really are. You might see something like “Wellness Center,” “Holistic Touch,” or “Therapeutic Spa.” Sometimes it’s even more vague, like “XYZ Holdings” or “Entertainment Group.”
And a trip to the strip club is definitely not going to show up as “Big Booty Gentlemen’s Lounge” on the statement. It’ll be disguised as something boring, like “B&T Food and Beverage,” “Club Management Services,” or something generic like “123 Corp.” Sometimes it just says “Restaurant” or “Bar.” The charge will look totally innocent, like “RSVP Entertainment Group – $280,” and you’d never think twice unless you knew what to look for.
Basically, if you see a company name that sounds super generic or you can’t find it with a quick Google search, that’s your sign. Real businesses want you to know who they are. Shady ones don’t.
So what if you find something? Listen to me. Your first instinct is going to be to confront him right then and there. Don’t do it. Not yet. Let it go a little longer and get more proof. Screenshot everything. Print it out. Keep a journal and track it all. Save copies to a cloud folder he can’t get into. And start putting some money aside for yourself, just in case.
When you do finally talk to him, be ready for him to turn it all around on you. He won’t confess. He’ll get angry and ask why you were snooping, and he’ll try to make it about your “trust issues.” That’s why you need to be calm and have all your facts lined up.
And please, be careful. I’m serious. You never know how someone will react when they’re cornered. Men can get violent. If you feel unsafe at all, leave and call someone you trust.
Just remember, guys like this rarely change. There was a woman on a cheating forum who found out her husband was cheating through his credit card bills. They got divorced. A few years later, the other woman was the new wife, and guess who showed up asking for advice with her own set of bank statements? Yep. He was cheating on her too.
So trust what you see. Don’t let him convince you that you’re crazy.