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One of the most common and heartbreaking things we hear from women who have been cheated on and lied to is, "But I still love him."
Let's be very clear about this: that feeling is probably not love. It's you hanging on to a fantasy. It's you loving the dream of what you thought you had, or the man you hoped he was, not the man who is standing in front of you, disrespecting you.
Women will put up with behavior that no man would ever tolerate. They will make huge sacrifices to their own happiness, health, and finances, all for a few good moments here and there. Real love isn't about accepting terrible behavior. Love is about respect, honesty, trust, and commitment. If he isn't giving you those things, he isn't giving you love.
Some women will suffer in silence because they're worried about what other people will think or about losing their social status as "so-and-so's wife." It all comes down to one simple truth, and it's the most important thing to remember: If you don't value yourself, no one else will either. You will only ever get what you believe you are worth.
Ask yourself this question:
"Would you want your daughter to have a husband who was a lying, cheating, self-centered, immature, arrogant bastard?"
You know the answer is no.
So why is it okay for you? And what message are you sending to your daughters, and to the world, if you accept it for yourself?
The point of learning about red flags isn't to become cynical or to believe that all men are bad. The point is to empower you to say "no" to the bad ones so you can make room for a good one.
Not all men cheat. There are so many good, loving, caring men out there who want to build a life on trust and respect. By refusing to settle for crumbs, you aren't closing yourself off from love. You are opening the door for the real thing to walk in.
As we move into the next section and practice spotting these signs, remember why you're doing it. You're not just learning to spot liars. You are learning to choose yourself. You are preparing to accept nothing less than the love you truly deserve.
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One of the most common and heartbreaking things we hear from women who have been cheated on and lied to is, "But I still love him."
Let's be very clear about this: that feeling is probably not love. It's you hanging on to a fantasy. It's you loving the dream of what you thought you had, or the man you hoped he was, not the man who is standing in front of you, disrespecting you.
Women will put up with behavior that no man would ever tolerate. They will make huge sacrifices to their own happiness, health, and finances, all for a few good moments here and there. Real love isn't about accepting terrible behavior. Love is about respect, honesty, trust, and commitment. If he isn't giving you those things, he isn't giving you love.
Some women will suffer in silence because they're worried about what other people will think or about losing their social status as "so-and-so's wife." It all comes down to one simple truth, and it's the most important thing to remember: If you don't value yourself, no one else will either. You will only ever get what you believe you are worth.
Ask yourself this question:
"Would you want your daughter to have a husband who was a lying, cheating, self-centered, immature, arrogant bastard?"
You know the answer is no.
So why is it okay for you? And what message are you sending to your daughters, and to the world, if you accept it for yourself?
The point of learning about red flags isn't to become cynical or to believe that all men are bad. The point is to empower you to say "no" to the bad ones so you can make room for a good one.
Not all men cheat. There are so many good, loving, caring men out there who want to build a life on trust and respect. By refusing to settle for crumbs, you aren't closing yourself off from love. You are opening the door for the real thing to walk in.
As we move into the next section and practice spotting these signs, remember why you're doing it. You're not just learning to spot liars. You are learning to choose yourself. You are preparing to accept nothing less than the love you truly deserve.
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One of the most common and heartbreaking things we hear from women who have been cheated on and lied to is, "But I still love him."
Let's be very clear about this: that feeling is probably not love. It's you hanging on to a fantasy. It's you loving the dream of what you thought you had, or the man you hoped he was, not the man who is standing in front of you, disrespecting you.
Women will put up with behavior that no man would ever tolerate. They will make huge sacrifices to their own happiness, health, and finances, all for a few good moments here and there. Real love isn't about accepting terrible behavior. Love is about respect, honesty, trust, and commitment. If he isn't giving you those things, he isn't giving you love.
Some women will suffer in silence because they're worried about what other people will think or about losing their social status as "so-and-so's wife." It all comes down to one simple truth, and it's the most important thing to remember: If you don't value yourself, no one else will either. You will only ever get what you believe you are worth.
Ask yourself this question:
"Would you want your daughter to have a husband who was a lying, cheating, self-centered, immature, arrogant bastard?"
You know the answer is no.
So why is it okay for you? And what message are you sending to your daughters, and to the world, if you accept it for yourself?
The point of learning about red flags isn't to become cynical or to believe that all men are bad. The point is to empower you to say "no" to the bad ones so you can make room for a good one.
Not all men cheat. There are so many good, loving, caring men out there who want to build a life on trust and respect. By refusing to settle for crumbs, you aren't closing yourself off from love. You are opening the door for the real thing to walk in.
As we move into the next section and practice spotting these signs, remember why you're doing it. You're not just learning to spot liars. You are learning to choose yourself. You are preparing to accept nothing less than the love you truly deserve.