Identify The
Dark Patterns
Relationship risks are rarely obvious. They hide in the small changes. Answer 12 questions to evaluate the health and transparency of your connection.
Assess My Risk
The Cheater Quiz
Identify The
Dark Patterns
Relationship risks are rarely obvious. They hide in the small changes. Answer 12 questions to evaluate the health and transparency of your connection.
Assess My Risk
The Cheater Quiz
Identify The
Dark Patterns
Relationship risks are rarely obvious. They hide in the small changes. Answer 12 questions to evaluate the health and transparency of your connection.
Assess My Risk
The Cheater Quiz
Have you ever wondered…
Why something feels off?
Why you feel confused by his behavior?
If you’re overthinking, or just being told you are?
Why something feels off?
Why you feel confused by his behavior?
If you’re overthinking, or just being told you are?
If you’re sitting with questions like these, you’re not alone.
If you’re sitting with questions like these, you’re not alone.
We hear you, and we're going to help.
In the next few minutes, we're going to tell you exactly how modern cheating actually works, and why it’s so much harder to spot than it used to be.
In the next few minutes, we're going to tell you exactly how modern cheating actually works, and why it’s so much harder to spot than it used to be.
You are never going to get the answers by:
You are never going to get the answers by:
Stalking his social media (You’re just looking at a screen they’ve curated to look "safe.")
Stalking his social media (You’re just looking at a screen they’ve curated to look "safe.")
Going through his phone. (Anyone hiding something has already deleted the evidence or moved it to an app you’ve never heard of.)
Going through his phone. (Anyone hiding something has already deleted the evidence or moved it to an app you’ve never heard of.)
Asking them point-blank. (If they’re already lying to you, why would they suddenly tell the truth just because you asked?)
Asking them point-blank. (If they’re already lying to you, why would they suddenly tell the truth just because you asked?)
If you're feeling unsure and confused, and can’t understand why his behaviour never quite makes sense.
It’s because no one has ever taught you the specific behavioural scripts to look for.
Every woman on the PinkFlag team knows this feeling.
If you're feeling unsure and confused, and can’t understand why his behaviour never quite makes sense.
It’s because no one has ever taught you the specific behavioural scripts to look for.
Every woman on the PinkFlag team knows this feeling.
The most dangerous lie we ever believed was that loving him was enough.
Before PinkFlag existed, we were just women trying to understand what was happening in our own relationships.
Something felt off.
He acting different?
Or was he pulling away?
We couldn’t explain it.
Before PinkFlag existed, we were just women trying to understand what was happening in our own relationships.
Something felt off.
He acting different?
Or was he pulling away?
We couldn’t explain it.
So we worked harder. Loved harder. Tried to be perfect, thinking maybe then he’d come back.
Maybe then we’d feel safe…
But while we were playing by the rules of love, he was playing a completely different game.
The day stumbled into the truth, was the worst day of all our lives.
So we worked harder. Loved harder. Tried to be perfect, thinking maybe then he’d come back.
Maybe then we’d feel safe…
But while we were playing by the rules of love, he was playing a completely different game.
The day stumbled into the truth, was the worst day of all our lives.
The hardest part wasn't just the betrayal, it was realizing we didn’t even know what to look for.
We knew there had to be a way to never let this happen again.
So, we decided stopped guessing and actually look for real answers.
At first, we did what everyone does. We searched websites, blogs, forums.
But everything felt vague or obvious.
So we dug deeper.
We knew there had to be a way to never let this happen again.
So, we decided stopped guessing and actually look for real answers.
At first, we did what everyone does. We searched websites, blogs, forums.
But everything felt vague or obvious.
So we dug deeper.
We read every book on infidelity we could find. We looked at clinical papers and studies.
Spoke to private investigators. Psychologists. Therapists.
Women who’d lived it. Women who caught them. Women who didn’t.
And we asked all of them the same thing:
What are the things they do? What are the shifts no cheater can hide?
And what we found changed everything.
We learned that cheaters, no matter how smart they think they are, all follow the same behavioral scripts.
How they talk. How they touch. Their distance. Their routines. They change in ways they don’t even realise.
Researchers call them Dark Patterns and once you learn to see them, you will never unsee them.
We took everything we found and turned them into a simple system
Something that we could actually use.
That system became The PinkFlag Program, and it’s helped us (and now, hundreds of women) see the patterns we once missed.
We read every book on infidelity we could find. We looked at clinical papers and studies.
Spoke to private investigators. Psychologists. Therapists.
Women who’d lived it. Women who caught them. Women who didn’t.
And we asked all of them the same thing:
What are the things they do? What are the shifts no cheater can hide?
And what we found changed everything.
We learned that cheaters, no matter how smart they think they are, all follow the same behavioral scripts.
How they talk. How they touch. Their distance. Their routines. They change in ways they don’t even realise.
Researchers call them Dark Patterns and once you learn to see them, you will never unsee them.
We took everything we found and turned them into a simple system
Something that we could actually use.
That system became The PinkFlag Program, and it’s helped us (and now, hundreds of women) see the patterns we once missed.
Only 21.5% of women ever find the truth on their own.
Only 21.5% of women ever find the truth on their own.
Most women go on loving a cheater. Forever.
That means nearly 80% of women never discover the truth unless their partner suddenly grows a conscience and confesses. Which, let's be honest, rarely happens. Most women go on loving a cheater. Forever. Introducing them to family. Building a life with them. Never knowing.
That means nearly 80% of women never discover the truth unless their partner suddenly grows a conscience and confesses. Which, let's be honest, rarely happens.
Lee, M. (2024) The truth about infidelity: Insights from 94,943 individuals. Psychology Today, 6 January. Available at: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/loves-evolver/202401/the-truth-about-infidelity-insights-from-94943-individuals
Lee, M. (2024) The truth about infidelity: Insights from 94,943 individuals. Psychology Today, 6 January. Available at: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/loves-evolver/202401/the-truth-about-infidelity-insights-from-94943-individuals
We Know This Feeling.
We are a team of women who have been exactly where you are right now. We spent months, some of us years, feeling like something was "off" but not having any proof. We were called "insecure" and "crazy" for having questions, only to find out later that we were 100% right.
We are a team of women who have been exactly where you are right now. We spent months, some of us years, feeling like something was "off" but not having any proof. We were called "insecure" and "crazy" for having questions, only to find out later that we were 100% right.
We started PinkFlag to help women stuck in those same cycles of lies. We didn’t want another "advice blog" we wanted a real way to see through the lies.
We teamed up with relationship psychologists, behavioral experts, and even private investigators to build a program that shows you exactly what a dark pattern a cheater follows.
Each module is based on real research from experts like Shirley Glass and the Gottman Institute. We took their decades of clinical research and turned them into a simple system that helps women finally get the truth.
We teamed up with relationship psychologists, behavioral experts, and even private investigators to build a program that shows you exactly what a dark pattern a cheater follows.
Each module is based on real research from experts like Shirley Glass and the Gottman Institute. We took their decades of clinical research and turned them into a simple system that helps women finally get the truth.
Glass, S. P., & Staeheli, J. C. (2004). Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding trust and recovering your sanity after infidelity. Atria Books
Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). “Marital Processes Predicting Later Dissolution: Behavior, Physiology, and Health.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221–233.
ARE YOU READY TO SEE THE TRUTH?
How PinkFlag Works
We’ve all been told the same lie: that if you just love him enough, be "perfect" enough and trust him, you can "affair-proof" your relationship. We call this the "Prevention Myth." The truth is, you can give him your whole life and a man who's decided you're not enough will still betray you.
We’ve all been told the same lie: that if you just love him enough, be "perfect" enough and trust him, you can "affair-proof" your relationship. We call this the "Prevention Myth." The truth is, you can give him your whole life and a man who's decided you're not enough will still betray you.
Step 01.
Step 01.
Step 01.
Take Cheater Quizz
Take Cheater Quizz
Answer a few questions about your situation. This helps you figure out if there is actually a real reason to be worried.
Step 02.
Step 02.
Step 02.
Get PinkFlag Toolkit
You get access to guided audio lessons that show you exactly what to look for, step by step. Start noticing the signs in just a few minutes a day.
Step 03.
Step 03.
Step 03.
Decide Your Future
Decide Your Future
Once you have the truth, you’re in control. You can decide what comes next, whether that’s facing his lies, walking away or staying because you now know he’s actually being honest.
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Is there a money-back guarantee?
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Does this work for long-distance?
What if we aren't married?
What if we aren't married?
Don't hope for honesty. Learn the truth.
Don't hope for honesty.
Learn the truth.
Every cheater leaves a trail, no matter how careful they think they are. It could be a tiny change in how they act, an odd shift in routine, or just something that doesn’t feel right.
By themselves, these little signs might be harmless… but together, they tell a story. And by the end of this program, you’ll be able to read that story.
Every cheater leaves a trail, no matter how careful they think they are. It could be a tiny change in how they act, an odd shift in routine, or just something that doesn’t feel right.
By themselves, these little patterns might be harmless… but together, they tell a story. And by the end of this program, you’ll be able to read that story.
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